Showing posts with label Zoey. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Zoey. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 8, 2015

The First Day of School...But Not Quite Yet.

Tonight is the eve of the first day of school! This is one of the most exciting yet nervous days of the year. I've always loved school and thankfully, so does Zoey. She is going into the first grade this year and is so excited to see her teacher and friends again.

However, she might not start school tomorrow.

There are unresolved issues in Washington State, even on the eve of the start of school, that have driven our teachers to overwhelmingly vote to go on strike if negotiations are not complete by the beginning of school on Wednesday, September 9, 2016.

I have said several times that I love this city because they stand up and fight for their rights. I will stand by them now, even though I really just want to be excited about school starting.

After researching the topic, I realized the issues go much further down the rabbit hole than I originally anticipated.

Last May, our teachers had a one-day walk-out to emphasize the need for appropriate funding in the state. It is clear from this response that the teachers are already prepared to make a stand for their own livlihood and the sincere education of their students.

On August 13 of this year, all nine Washington Supreme Court judges signed an order issuing contempt of court sanctions against the State for failing to comply with the Court's orders in the McCleary case (a landmark case for Washington's school children which concluded in an unprecedented step of retaining jurisdiction over the case to ensure the Legistlature met the court's mandate for increased funding by 2018). Because of the Legislature's failure to make "real and measurable progress" towards a plan to fully fund basic education, the Washington Supreme Court imposes a fine of $100,000 a day until the matter is resolved. 

Although the legistration did add some funding to this school year it is sadly lacking in it's progress to meet the constitutional obligation for Washington's school children. The goal for Seattle Public Schools is to drastically reduce class size, increasing teacher-student ratios for grades K-3 and keep it permantently funded. Ideally this would mean 1 teacher for every 17 students by 2018 with the funding to keep the ratio steady long term.

The Seattle Public School District (SPS) and Seattle's Education Association (SEA), the local teacher's union, has been in negotiations since this past May. The two parties have still not reached a tentative agreement, which could mean school will not start as scheduled tomorrow, Wednesday, Septemeber 9. 

Last Thursday, Seattle Public School teachers overwhelmingly voted to go on strike if the SPS and SEA did not come up with a tentative contract before the start of school. Several issues have been discussed heavily over labor day weekend; however, only a very few have been settled. 

The issues:
  • Salary Increase
The starting salary for SPS teachers is approximately $44,000. However, they have now gone six years with no state cost of living increase and five years without a state increase in healthcare. 

The District proposed a 13% increase across 3 years, which includes a state-approved cost-of-living adjustment. The Union countered with a 22.8% over the same amount of time. As negotiations progress, the numbers continue to change. However, teacher's salary continues to be one of the most negotiated issues.

This spring state budget passed a boost in school funding across the state by about $1.3 billion over the next two years. In reality, that gives Seattle Public Schools roughly $40 million over the same amount of time. The Washington State Supreme Court agrees, "teacher pay is key" (Seattle Times).

  • Increased Instructional Time
The District has proposed an additional 30 minutes of teacher instructional time claiming kids need more time with the teacher to significatly advance student potential and extend P.E. and arts music opportunities aiding to meet state requirements. The teachers, who are already unsettled by the lack of salary increase, are reluctant to this new district proposal of more hours without proper compensation.

  • Guarenteed Recess of 30-45 Minutes Per Day
Time alloted for recess in elementary schools varies wildly across the state. Some schools get as little as 15 mins and other as much as 45 minutes per day. The District currently has no requirements for daily recess although the district wellness policy recommends 30 minutes per day. 

This issue is one of the few where negotiations have prevailed. On Saturday, the district and teachers union agreed on a guaranteed minimum of 30 minutes a day of recess for elementary-school students, a compromise from the SEA original proposal of 45 minutes.

  • Increase in Educational Staff Associates
The teacher's union requested more instructional assistants, teacher's aids and an increase for certified substitute teachers. This is another area that has seen progress in negotiations. On Sunday, an agreement to increase pay for certified substitute teachers was reached. This includes an attempt to address the general shortages of substitutes throughout the state.

There are also several issues that have yet to release negotiation details including:
  • Fair and consistent teacher/staff evaluations with focus on successful education (not the results of stantardized tests).
  • More responsible standardized testing (especially in elementary schools), specifically less of it.
  • Caseload caps and workload relief for office professionals (i.e. physical, speech and occupational therapists and school psychologists) in order to deliever required services to each child.
And wait, there's more!

The Seattle School Board is considering legal action if teacher's decide to strike on Wednesday morning. In addition to legal action against teachers and other school employee who strike, Seattle Public Schools Superintendent, Larry Nyland, can also limit or close off educator's access to the school building and suspend the use of employee's sick leave.

The action report states, "The District considers a strike or the concerted refusal to provide contract for services to be unlawful. Such actions causes irreparable harm and disrupts the education program of the District, students, families and others" (Seattle Times).

The Seattle Education Association President Jonathan Knapp responds, "It's disappointing that the school board is grasping at legalistic straws rather than focusing on ways to provide the supports that educators need to be successful with students. We won't be scared into abandoning our commitment to winning a fair contract" (Seattle Times).

The last time Seattle teachers struck was thirty years ago in 1985; school was cancelled for three weeks. 

Now...

I have shared all the facts. (In fact, I remember how much I loved investigative journalism.) However, this is my blog and this affects my family directly. That means I get to share my opinion as well.

First of all, I love Zoey's school. I as a parent and she as a student, had an amazing year last year. That being said, Zoey was in a kindergarten class with 26 other children and no teacher's aid. There was a brief few months where her class had a student teacher; you could see over his time in the classroom how much her teacher and the students benefited from having a second person in the classroom. There should be a teacher's aid in every Kindergarten class. 

I would also advacate strongly for smaller class sizes. Zoey was extremely lucky to have a teacher with a gift of controling a classroom; however, not every class was so lucky. One friend was sad throughout much of the year because the classroom was bordering on chaos. That is not an appropriate enviornment for our children to learn in. 

Zoey also attends a school that gives considerable recess time. In addition, Zoey's teacher often rewarded good class behavior with extra free time. This was a huge benefit to her learning because it allowed time for play, which resulted in more focus within the classroom during instructional time.

I also support the need for more substitutes with cerdifications because one lovely lady made half of Zoey's class cry last year as a subsitute. As a parent, I would appreciate more options in substitutes and ones that are trained, at least mininumally, in how to handle a classroom of young children.

I am so excited for the beginning of school; however, I stand by our school and our teachers and their protests. I hope that negotiations will work out to benefit both teacher and students. I know Zoey's teacher deserves a lot more than she currently receives.

The thing I don't understand is this. We pay tax dollars and millions to support politicians, big business and war, why do we resist so much when it comes to education? These are our children. They are going to grow up one day to rule this world. Why would we not give them every advantage, every opportunity and every ounce of support to build them up every step of the way. I know it seems like "only recess," but the future president is in a school right now kicking a soccer ball at recess. Let's give he or she every chance to be a kid, to learn more about the world we live in from amazing teachers who really care about our kids and allow them all grow into greatness!

That's all I want for my daughter. To learn, to have fun and to become who she is meant to be. It starts here, even if here only looks like school politics. Our children will be great...let's give them the opportunity to show us that greatness.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

{Wordless Wednesday} The Good Life

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Tuesday, September 9, 2014

{Wordless Wednesday} First Day of Kindergarten


Zoey was a little nervous and a lot excited as she began her first day of Kindergarten this week!

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Monday, September 8, 2014

And So A New Chapter Begins


I quit working one week before Zoey was born. Technically, the day before her due date was my last day. However, she decided she wanted to show up fashionably late...five days later, she was born. Ever since we brought her home from the hospital, I have stayed with her. Of course she had her times for playdates, sleepovers, and a special trip with Daddy, but for the most part we spent our days together. For the last five years, my days have revolved around my daughter and how we can get the most out of our day together.

When she was still an infant, I would just spend time holding her. As she grew and became more and more independent our lives shifted, but only slightly. Our days were still spent together. Whether we were at the library or the park, whether we met others there or just spent the time as just the two of us, we spent our days together. Whether we were learning letters and numbers, shapes and colors or how to cook or bake, we spent our days together.

Today is different. Today we won't be spending the day together. Today is Zoey's first day of school!


Zoey has been looking forward to school for two years now. She wanted to go to preschool last year, however, it was not meant to be. So she waited, relatively patiently, until this year. She has been looking forward to making new friends, playing and learning. I was so excited for her with the time had finally come.

During the last year, we have moved across the country far away from our previous friends and family. We also moved away from the school she thought she was going to go too. We did all the pre-registration, having no idea at the time we would move, and she was ready to go. When we landed in our new city, she was unsure of her new school. We went to visit it, she was so excited to know what it looked like. We met her teacher, a wonderful lady who Zoey is already getting along with even before the first day. She made a friend, it was at the open house and she isn't even in her class, but it made all the difference. I am glad she was excited about her new school.


We live in Seattle, WA, now and are taking full advantage of the public transportation. Zoey speaks up one day saying, "I want to ride the bus all by myself." I said that it just so happens she will ride the bus all by herself when she goes to school. She loved this idea. She was ready to go.

There were moments of nervousness, I could tell because she asked a hundred questions. But her excitement won out. I am thankful for that. I love that she isn't afraid of new things and embraces her independence.

This morning she was ready to go when the bus got here. She wasn't nervous or shy...she was ready. When the bus pulled up (and we made sure it was going to the right place) she took my hand and climbed on. She let go without a second glance. With a smile she was off on her adventure. As the bus pulled away her eyes were wild with wonder. She got to ride the bus all by herself.


I think she will love school. She gets to go on the playground first thing. She has no trouble making friends and getting along with kids. She is a sponge when it comes to learning. The school has a wonderful atmosphere with people who really care about the kids. I hope she has a magnificent day.

Today is a day like no other. Today is the beginning of a whole new chapter in our lives. Zoey is in school now. I no longer have my shadow. She has come into her own self and it now lighting up the world around her all on her own. I am so proud of her.

I sit now on my computer writing and thinking. I'm trying not to wonder to much if she is having a good time. If she has found her friend again. If she is obeying her teacher. If she will remember where her snack is. I won't be there to tell her, she'll have to figure it out on her own. And I know she will. I know there will be others there to help her, just as she helps her friends. These thoughts fill my heart to overflowing. I know she knows what to do and that she will do it.


I sit here with a million things on my mind to do. I've been waiting for her to go to school so I could get several things accomplished without interruption. Keeping this blog updated is one of them. But I sit here, sipping coffee and listening to music, and don't really know what to do first. I am full of emotion - happy emotions. I am so proud of Zoey for becoming her own person. Now it is time for me to define myself in a new way as well.

I've been a stay-at-home mom for five years now. That feels like a lifetime (a least of my daughter's life) I would not trade it for the world. However, it is time for a new identity. I don't know what that looks like yet. But I can't wait to find out. Today it starts with a real heart to heart with myself. I begins with a blank page quickly being filled with words. It begins with allowing myself to change. It means taking chances and becoming myself all over again in a whole new way. We redefine ourselves many times in our lives. There is beauty in change and life in discovery. I can't wait to ride the waves of this journey and find out, once again, who I am.

I am constructing my resume to hopefully obtain a job in the near future. I yearn to have time to keep up with this blog and a couple other journal projects I have begun. I am excited to be able to sort through pictures and put the final touches on our house. I can't wait to have time to write again and to paint. I want to do so many things. I am excited about my new journey, just as I am excited about Zoey's.

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Time is just an illusion. It marks the passage of days and lives. Big changes like this day, this moment in our lives where our daily lives change so completely, that lets me remember just how important every moment is. So today, I am happy to sit at my computer while Zoey goes and has a grand adventure. I will eat lunch with my husband. I will wash dishes and laundry. And I will be waiting when Zoey gets off the bus, ready to give her my undivided attention (something that has been hard to do lately with so many things to do on my mind) wanting to know all about her day.

We have been side by side for five years. However, it is those times that you are apart that make you appreciate being together. I am excited for her adventure and for mine. And when we come back together, we will form a whole new relationship, built on the strength of our five years together. I pray that relationship becomes even stronger than the one we had when we were together all day every day. She knows her Mommy and Daddy love her and we will always be right here when she comes home.

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I love you sweet girl. I hope you have a fantastic adventure at school today!

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

{Wordless Wednesday} Happy 5th Birthday Zoey!


Yesterday was my daughter, Zoey's, 5th birthday. We had a great day in Seattle to celebrate. One of her favorite moments though, was playing with her toys, especially the Lego Friends Treehouse that she has wanted for a while now. This is one of my favorite pictures of the a truly wonderful day.

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Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Wordless Wednesday *Linky* Pinewood Derby

Our church does a Grand Prix (like a Pinewood Derby) every year through the Awanas program. This year Zoey and my husband worked really hard on her car. They cut out the car together and then Zoey painted it all by herself. It was "rainbow" with lots of glitter! She did really well in the race. She won 3rd for design and 1st for speed for her class (2-4 year olds) and was 2nd overall in speed (out of about 60 cars). I am excited she did well, but more importantly she learned something, had an opportunity to be creative and proved her diligence in finishing it with her Dad. And the best part - she had so much fun! We all did!

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Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Happy Halloween!

I've always enjoyed Halloween, it can be a lot of fun! This year, I have enjoyed Halloween even more because Zoey is really getting into it. She loves the pumpkins and will point out all of the Halloween decorations we see with bright, excited  eyes. It is more fun to see the mystery of Halloween through Zoey's eyes.

Zoey chose her own Halloween costume this year. Ever since they first put them out, Zoey has gravitated to Snow White. Not just a princess, but Snow White specifically. If you ask her who her favorite Princess is, her answer (9 out of 10 times) is Snow White. I was excited that we were able to provide what she wanted the most. When we first brought the costume home, she was on cloud 9 all afternoon while she was wearing it.

We did go to one Halloween party. In the spirit of Snow White, I dressed up as the evil Queen and Stephen was Sleepy Dwarf. It was fun to be part of Zoey's imagination. Even if she called me "Mommy Witch" and her Daddy "Naptime Superhero" all night, I think she understood we were doing it for her.



The best part about this party was the creepy spider that swung down with a cackle hiding in the bathroom. Yes, it was scary, it was suppose to be. But Zoey saw it and laughed, saying "silly spider." We did give her a little warning, but still, her reaction was priceless. After a night full of cupcakes and play, she said her favorite part of the party was "the dancing spider in the bathroom!" I think she has this Halloween thing down pat.

I hope everyone has a fun and safe Halloween! Trick or Treat!

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Wordless Wednesday: Daddy and Me

Daddy and Me

Father's Day Tradition

For the last three years (the three years Zoey has been around for us to celebrate Father's day) we have gone to the South Carolina Aquarium. It works out perfectly. Daddies get in free and we get to experience something awesome right in our hometown.

Zoey and Daddy watch the Manta Rays
I love that this is a yearly adventure because we are able to measure, relatively, how much Zoey has grown in a year. It is always so interesting to see  what she will find interesting and what she wants to learn about each year.
Watch out for Shark Girl Zoey!
This has been the first year Zoey has really anticipated going to the aquarium. I kept asking if she was ready to go see the big fishes. Her answer, every time, was "and the turtles, Mommy." Yes, of course, how could I forget the turtles? They are one of her favorite things right now.

Zoey excited to see fish as big as her
Zoey had a great time at the aquarium. Stephen and I had a wonderful time seeing all the wonders through her eyes. Zoey very much wanted to take the lead this year and we let her. She went from fish to otters to owls to turtles to more fish like a whirlwind.

Zoey counting the starfish's legs
I was surprised when she stopped in front of the albino alligator exhibit where a lady was speaking about the alligators. Zoey wanted to go listen and she did. She sat up front with the other kids and listened to the entire lesson. I was so proud of her, that was quite an accomplishment for a not even three year old. She even stood in line for her turn to pet the baby alligator.

Zoey listening to the alligator lesson
I love how much Zoey loves learning. We've been doing preschool at home, which seems to help her attention span, a little at least But her innate curiosity is all hers and I love it. She rarely asks a blanket "why?" Instead, she will ask, "Why does the alligator have his head out of the water" or "Why does the snake lose his skin?" She really has an understanding beyond her years. We are constantly trying to fuel it and challenge her in fun ways.

Crab Boat Captain Zoey
We had a great Father's Day adventure at the aquarium this year. Besides petting the alligator, Zoey also saw a diver in the deep sea tank, counted the legs of a starfish, saw many turtles and played on a replica crab boat. We had a great time, but like all great adventures it had to come to an end. We were tired after a very exciting day, but it turned out to be a wonderful Father's Day!

Do you have any special traditions that you do every year? Did you do anything special for Father's Day? I'd love to hear about all of your adventures!

Thursday, June 14, 2012

What Sound Does A Telephone Make?



Zoey and I were playing with a couple old cell phones in her room today. It was quite simple, she would pick up the phone, call me, talk and then hang up. I am actually quite impressed with how intuitively kids understand the concept of the telephone.

Then it was my turn to pick up the phone and "call" her. I dial seven buttons and then call "ring ring...ring ring" because that is the sound a telephone, right? Apparently not anymore. Zoey looked at me like I had five heads.

When I was a kid, we were lucky to have more than one telephone in the whole house and it made a "ring--bring" sound. I got thinking...telephones don't sound like that anymore. Now every person has a phone on them at all times (generally speaking) in which you only have to hit one button to call a person and they make all kinds of fun musical sounds or even play songs when the phone rings. No wonder Zoey looked at me weird when I made a phone go "ring ring."

I suddenly feel very old. It is amazing how fast the technology changes.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Playground Magic



There is something magical about the playground for a child. I vaguely remember it, but I watch Zoey play and I can feel it again.

Last Friday we were at a playground where my parents live and we ended up staying for about 2 hours. Zoey had a blast there. She met not one, but three different sets of friends to play and pretend with. I am so thankful that Zoey has no problems making friends, even for just an afternoon.

We kept meaning to leave, but I was reading a really good book and Zoey was having so much fun so we just sat around for quite a while. I would go help push her in the swing, but other than that she is prefectly happy being independent and making the most of the playground.

I love Zoey's imagination. I hear her with her new friends for the day pretending to be in a cage behind the bars of the platform or crossing a raging river full of alligators going across the bridge. It makes my heart smile.

There is something magical about the playground. I hope Zoey keeps the magic alive as long as she possibly can.

Friday, April 20, 2012

One Week Completed (Couch to 5K)

Today completes week one of my couch to 5K challenge! Hooray!!!

I thought it would be horrible, but really ended awesome. I still am not very good at running, but like most things it is just mind over matter. I learned the proper techniques of running and decided I could do it. And I did.

Today's run was the best yet. I pushed myself a little bit since it was the last run of the week. Instead of going around the not quite one mile loop, I went down the next street and turned around after a good distance. It ended up being 1.35 miles. I kept thinking I wasn't going to make it home and then I would start running again. I surprised myself with how well I did. I wasn't even about to hyperventilate by the time I reached home.

I realized the other thing that has changed between this time attempting to run and previous times is that I do yoga (not quite consistently). The point is that I have learned to breath better; to take deeper breaths the fill up my entire lung instead of shallow breaths.

After just one week (three runs) I have managed to make it 1/3 of the distance I need to in a relatively good time. There is hope for completing this race in October. Granted I'm not running the whole time, I'm running then walking, running then walking. However, the point is to finish the distance, it doesn't matter so much how you get there.

I am very proud of myself this week. I accomplished step one in my goal. And I feel great.

Stats:
4.20.12: 1.35 miles in 24:29 minutes at an average speed of 3.3mph.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Couch to 5K

So it looks like I am going to run a 5K in October. If you know me at all you are now looking at me with a crazy "who are you and what have you done with Amanda" look because I HATE to run. However, I need to get off my butt and excercise consistently so--I'm running a 5K in October.

It wasn't even really my idea. One of my best friends called me up last week and basically said, "I'm going to ask you something and I want you to say yes." She told me about what is called the "Color Run" and wanted me to run it with her. "It will be fun" she said.

Fun. Right.

But, I have heard about the "Color Run" and it sounds awesome! Basically, you run the 3.1 miles and at different checkpoints you get doused in color. By the end of the race you are covered in colors and then it's time to start really having fun.

I decided that if I have a fun goal with a set date I would follow through in my exercise (even if it is running). It will also help that (in theory) I will have several people doing this run with me. It will be a great time and a chance to catch up with people I haven't seen in years.

Stephen laughed at me because he's been trying to get me to run for two years (since he started running) and I have no reason why I haven't started yet. But I am starting now and that is what matters. I have no idea how it will go, but I will run the 5K in October whether I'm ready or not, so hopefully I get ready.

I am starting the "Couch to 5K" program this week. Apparently the trick is to start out slow. I can definitely do that.

I've run twice so far this week. A pretty good start if you ask me. I intend to run again on Friday (since Stephen  is running a 5K tomorrow evening and I won't be able to get out and run without Zoey).

The second run was a lot better than the first like I figured, but I was surprised by how much better. I even skipped a day in between. The second day was faster with longer strides. And even though the distance in the stats are off, I ran the same look both days so it is about a miles both runs.

Here are the stats:

Monday 4.16.12: .97 miles in 18:59 minutes at an average speed of 2.6 mph.
Wednesday 4.18.12: .89 miles in 15:56 minutes at an average speed of 2.9 mph.

I'll try to keep you updated (more like myself accountable).


Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Meet Zeus


We actually got Zeus a few weeks ago, but life has been crazy since then and I haven't properly introduced him on this blog.


Zeus is a lab mix. We got him at 9 weeks. He was born to an older dog and was the only puppy to survive from his litter. That makes him very special to us and to his previous owner.


He is a very good puppy, naturally curious, quick to learn and very ready to play.


Zoey loves her "baby puppy" and plays with him well.


Eli and Zeus quickly became a pack. Eli needed a friend as much as Zoey did and they have all been getting along great. Eli helps Zeus learn to fight and play. Even Zoey is learning to command and take care of the puppy.


It is so much fun to grow and learn together. Having pets is a wonderful learning experience for Zoey and us all.


Zeus, welcome to the family!

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

For the Love of Dinosaurs

Zoey has fallen in love with dinosaurs. I think it is so cute. I never really got into dinosaurs very much as a kid, but Stephen did and he is very excited about her interest. I know know all the names of the dinosaurs now, but I have a feeling if this love lasts any time at all I will learn them all.

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It all started when Zoey found this Bob the Builder show on Netflix called "The Big Dino Dig." From that movie she learned the word "dinosaur" (which she can say very clearly actually) and then the interest grew. She started pointing out dinosaurs on tv and in books. She even started asking about them.

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I decided to share one of my favorite movies from my childhood, "The Land Before Time" with her. This was the most I was ever into dinosaurs. But it was more my best childhood friend and I falling in love with the characters. Turns out, Zoey loves "The Land Before Time" too! We've watched it several times this past week or so.

All Zoey's dinosaurs come to say "cheese"

We were visiting my mom a couple weeks ago ad we went into a toy store and found some awesome toy dinosaurs. There are five of them and she loves them. They quickly became her favorite toy. Now they talk to her cars and sleep in the toy house with her little people. The five dinosaurs fit in well with the toys in Zoey's world.

The Dinosaurs splash in to tub with Zoey

Zoey takes them in the bath with her. One day she was playing with them and watching "The Land Before Time" at the same time. It is really cute watching her make up stories for the dinosaurs and her other toys to play out.

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The newest show we've found with dinosaurs is Dinosaur Train on PBS. After watching a couple episodes, I actually really like it. There is so much accurate and interesting information about dinosaurs that I am learning things. They use the real names and even some scientific language. I like shows that don't dumb down the content.

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We've been having lots of fun playing with and learning about dinosaurs. I am learning a lot too. I hope to get Zoey some kind of illustrated Dinosaur encyclopedia or story book to delve even deeper. It's lots of fun watching Zoey grow and becoming interested in her own adventures.

Thursday, March 15, 2012

My Zoey Bug

Here is a photo of Zoey from last weekend. It really captures her smile. It makes me happy.


Friday, January 27, 2012

Zoey's Bedtime Snack

Last night we tucked Zoey into bed, just like any other night. We spent some time in our room with the door closed, but when we came out we noticed something out of place. The refridgerator door was beeping because it had been open too long and there was a chair in front of it.

Interesting...Zoey had been here.

It was fairly common at this point since she has learned how to open the fridge to put a chair in front of it so she can reach objects she wants. She is learning the rules of the fridge. It seems the most important one to learn now is to close it when she is finished. But she will get apples, other fruit, a juice box, a hotdog or cheese out fairly commonly. Like I said, she is learning the rules.

Anyway. So last night we couldn't figure out what she took. I figured it was probably just an apple and didn't really worry about it.

A few minutes later we hear a small voice from the hallway, "Mommy? Mommy, help."

I go to see what she is up to and she holds out half a grapefruit (the second half from breakfast) and a spoon. I laugh a little and take the remains of her bedtime snack.

Then she holds out her hands and says, "sticky." I get her a wet washcloth to wipe her hands off. When she finishes she hands the washcloth back to me.

I say, "Goodnight Zoey" and blow her a kiss.

She blows on back. "Night night, Mommy. I love you, too."

"I love you, Zoey."

She walks back into her bedroom and closes the door. We don't hear another peep out of her all night. Except for some play sounds that are also very familiar.

I was amazed by this transaction at bedtime. Zoey has a habit of stalling bedtime, like I'm sure most kids do, but this was really sweet. I don't really encourage the action of going out the the fridge at night, at least at two. But I can't be aggravated with her in the least.

My little girl is growing up. She is getting wants and desires. And she is intelligent enough and sly enough to make it to the kitchen get a snack and a spoon and back in her room without us hearing her. If she hadn't left the fridge open we wouldn't have even known she was out of her room.

She is one crafty little girl. And I'm proud of that.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

It's All Hard

I remember thinking when Zoey was an infant that it will be easier when she is older. It will wear me out less because I don't have to carry her around, it will be easier to understand her because she can tell me what she wants and it'll be easier to sleep because she will sleep through the night.

Zoey as an infant

I was very lucky to have an extremely easy-going baby. But now that she is two. It is still hard. She still wears me out because she is always on the move to do something else; it's easier to understand her, but her her requests have gotten much more specific; and she does sleep through the night, but I stay up reading or on the computer and still don't get the right amount of sleep.

Now I'm thinking, wow, it was so much easier when she was an infant. She couldn't run all over the place terrorizing whatever she found interesting, she couldn't say "no" to and get mad when she doesn't get her way and she couldn't completely wreck the house and leave toys everywhere in about 2.7 seconds.

Zoey: age 1

And then I think. If she were still an infant she couldn't help me cook dinner, she couldn't give me a kiss out of no where and she couldn't come up to me and say "I love you, Mommy."

I wouldn't trade Zoey being two for the world. Just like I wouldn't have traded her being an infant for the world. I love every stage she is in. I appreciate who she used to be and I look forward to who she becomes, but the most important thing is right now.

Zoey: age 2

Right now, Zoey loves to help cook in the kitchen, she can make scrambled eggs by herself (with suppervision of course), she loves to spread all of her blankets out on the floor and watch a movie, she loves to go on adventures with all of her toys, she will cuddle her baby doll one minute and then speed with her hot wheels cars the next and the best thing ever is when she comes to give you a hug, just for being you. Two is fun. Yet, she still wears me out.

And just for the record, we babysat our friends two kids, a one year old and a 2 month old. My conclusion: it's all hard. Handling an infant is hard and handling a two year old is hard. They are just hard in different ways. The  most important part is, every stage is rewarding. And I wouldn't trade a minute of it.

My Zoey-bug!

Monday, January 9, 2012

Potty Training Fiasco

Did you have an easy time potty training? Maybe I need some tips because I don't think Zoey is ever going to be potty trained. She's already almost 2 and a half, I'm starting to worry if she will be in diapers when it's time to start kindergarten!

The last few days I've been talking up going to the potty. I've been going on about how she's a big girl and she will wear no more diapers. Her response has consistently been "No Potty!"

I suppose that should have been a sign. But, I continued with the bare bottom technique today as planned thinking that she would get into it when we started.

Nope. I was wrong.

It started off really well I thought. I gave her the whole spill again about how she is a big girl and not going to wear diapers anymore. I told her about the treat she would get if she peed in the potty.

I brought the kids potty into the living room and explained how she was to sit on it if she needed to pee. She understood, I know she does. She even moved the potty to her approved location (about 6 inches into the middle of the floor from where it was), circled it a couple times and then sat down.

At this point I'm thinking, "All right! This is going to be easy, this time she will really get it." After about one full minute she jumped up ready to play.

So we did. We played, we started watching Cars 2 and was having a great time. Until...

She was ready to pee. I encouraged her to go potty and she stopped peeing, but she wouldn't move. So I sort of swooped her to the potty (like a foot and a half away) and she FREAKED OUT! This was a meltdown and a half. She flailed and screamed, but she didn't pee anymore.

"NO POTTY!"

After giving her a minute to calm down I asked her again to sit on the potty. She looked me in the eye and with the most sincere voice said "No Potty!"

She then preceded to get me a diaper, kick the potty chair for good measure and then lay down to put a diaper on. I suppose she made her choice.

At this point I'm thinking I have failed as a mother and my daughter is never going to be potty trained. I'm sure that isn't true, but I would say that Zoey is not ready to go in the potty yet. She acts like it.  I'm pretty sure she even makes the connection between peeing and going to the potty. She knows the potty and has the whole routine down so she knows what to do, but she doesn't want to do it. I have no idea why.

She hasn't had any traumatic experiences with the potty, that I know of anyway. She doesn't seem scared of the potty itself, but anytime I encourage her to sit on the potty I get the same response to some degree.

In fact, I have been/am dreading potty training because Zoey DOES NOT CARE if she is wet or soiled. Absolutely does not care. Pee could be dripping down her legs and she doesn't care. She will tell us when she has peed or pooped, but she doesn't want her diaper changed. She runs away and fights us to change her diaper, but she refuses to go in the potty.

I give up, I have no idea what to do.

So I'm putting a diaper on her after this and laughing to myself a little. I ask her, "Are you going to go to school in diapers?"

She answers, "No, Mommy."

So I ask, "Why don't you use the potty now?"

A very stern, "No Potty" is her response.

So I have no idea what to do next. All the books say that once you commit to potty training to not look back. I feel like I'm giving up, but my mother's instinct is saying not to push it, at least not right now. I don't want potty training to become a traumatic experience.

I suppose she is still young in the grand scheme of things. And she has a way of deciding for herself when and how she is going to do something. I figure she will decide in her own time when she is ready and that will be that, presto potty trained. Hopefully it is before kindergarten.

Do you have an funny or horror stories when it comes to potty training? Were there any tricks that worked for you? Was your kid an early potty goer  or did he/she go at her own pace?

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